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Sunday, September 25, 2016

Advice on Making Your Porn Blog Work




QUESTION:  tall whiteboy wrote:
Thanks for posting a link to my blog on your blog A Father's Pride and Joy. That one link has led
about 200 visitors to my site over the past month. Feel free to repost more as long as you're linking back to me! I could use the traffic.

Do you have any advice on how to get more people to visit my blog? I'm trying everything I can think of to promote my site, but I haven't had much growth lately. Also, Facebook was one of my best marketing tools, but they deleted my account for linking to "obscene" material. Any advice you can give on what has worked for you would be appreciated by this new blogger!

Thanks and keep up the great work,
Andrew
tallwhiteboy.blogspot.com




RESPONSE: My advice from a would-be non-profit porn blogger

The first point of advice is also a telling reminder: You must not have noticed one major difference in my blogs and yours: none of my blogs has any commercial advertising - (except what Blogger (Google) puts there). It is telling because you didn't even mention that fact.

I think that trying to make money on a blog that is created from stuff we've simply found (on the Internet trash heap) is like trying to earn a living by picking up pennies. (It can be done - if you have to have a volunteer crew of 1000s - smile). That is not the only reason that I am never going to go commercial.

The second reason is that once you do, you become the target of your rivals and of your resources (Google takes a wholly different attitude about what a commercial blogger does and what a personal, private individual does). I won't bother to list the other five reasons why I will not be trying to monetize my blogs.

That being said, here is my wisdom about how blogs become popular (or not) or at least just noticed, please take it with a grain of salt and huge dash of pepper. ( ).
I am not saying mine are popular. However, upwards of 5000 hits a day come to my most visited blogs:
Guys Into CMNM http://guys2ncmnm.blogspot.com
About a thousand hits a day are reached on 2 or 3 other ones.




Advice:
0.0 Be a writer: It helps to think like a writer/editor/publisher - instead of simply a porn smurf (purveyor of XX-rated gay material).
Start acting like one and you'll find it will become easier to make your own blog have the kind of qualities that will attract readership.

0.1 Do your homework. You need to be a good blog/site visitor yourself and also do a fair bit of research on what makes a particular blog appealing. Think about how you found it. Experiment with the various non-commercial apps, widgets, gadgets and tools that you have found on other people's blogs. Then you'll have a better understanding of what's working and what does not.

1. THEME: A specific targeted theme works to attract a certain clientele. Too general and the appeal may (or may not) work. That's the reason I maintain 10 different blogs - most of them are themed: cmnm, public sex or dickflashing, bromance/ straight/curious, interracial, daddy/son,
Asian male, gay travel, my own personal experience & commentary, etc.....

I notice that you put a lot of work into making a single post have a theme. That does add a lot of quality, but it only adds value for readers/visitors who have actually found your blog/site.

It also good to have some writing / text even when you're just wanting to show some grouped / themed porn shots. The Google search engine uses these as 'labels' in order to locate and index the photos. When done consistently, your blog's photos will pop up on Google's (and Bing's) image search when guys are trying to find free porn.

2. CONTENT: Intersperse original blogs entries with copied material.

Original means posts that either you write or when you find something worth re-posting and for which you have permission (even if only implied permission). My readers usually can find (not always true because I don't always have or make the time to do this) on a single page - at least one original post - along with the visual porn reposts that I frequently borrow from Queerclick or JustusBoys. Those sites are commercial porn blogs and they are working as viral advertisers for the various porn producers. So that only benefit by having people like me (or you) repost their stuff AS LONG AS it links back to the porn studios original marketing page (or via Queerclick - which is just pimping it for them). So, in effect, I am pimping for the pimp (and taking none of the credit or revenue).

However, since I also post a lot of amateur nude/gay sex photos and do some original writing or take snippets from other sources (especially where I am a contributor), then there is a balance that appeals to me and, hopefully, to the readers.

3. Socialize it: Add various social networks to create layers of linking around people - not just the porn.

A. Because they are themed blogs, I can also create a social networking site around that theme so that readers/visitors get some added valued. It works both ways. Guys who join the themed social networks get to view the blog content as well; that's the usefulness of RSS feeds.
The social networks operate separately but it gives readers/visitors an automatic sense of identity and feeling of community.

B. You can also add social networking apps/widgets directly to the blogs to get the same effect and actually create a loyal fan base. Google's FriendConnect is one of the more popular ones. Oddly enough, most of the people who are 'join' as followers of my blogs using FriendConnect are bloggers themselves - who are also looking to befriend fellow bloggers (kind of a backdoor link up).

C. Twitter does work to bring in visitors. I have created multiple Twitter accounts and use Twitterfeed to post updates to all of each of the Twitter accounts automatically when a new post is made to one of my blogs.

4. Tags are important. Blogger tags are not simply so that a visitor can search your blog archive to find a certain item of interest. Those tags are searchable from Google's main search engine. Therefore, you should use

standard tags whenever possible, and don't hesitate to repeat the main key tag words: gay, porn, nude, cock, suck, fuck, naked, male, men etc along with your more accurate descriptive tags. It is automatic free advertising (as long as you have set your Blogger settings correctly).

5. Facebook (and several other large portal type social sites, MySpace, Yahoo, Google other sites (Buzz, Profile, etc... ) can be used effectively WITHOUT posting obscene material.

Many of my blogs (themed) ones also have a Facebook Fan page. I just don't post any material from the blog directly to the Facebook Fan page. Instead, I can post a link (without offending visual images) to my blogs.

Particularly, if you have some alternate identities, you can populate your Facebook Fan page and also get 'their' Twitter updates posted to Facebook. One Facebook Fan page I created got to be popular enough, that I gave over the management and administration to one of the enthusiastic members.


Here is the list of my current porn blogs and the main contributors:

My Blogs

Team Members

Twinkaholic: Addicted to Teen GaysBrian Sullivan garxon19 Kelly 'Sunbuns' Jo KristianKawika Makahakanoa
Passions of the Hentaigarxon19 Kawika Makahakanoa sullybboi Kelly 'Sunbuns' Brian Sullivan
Guys into CMNMTim Jo Kristian David Seefallus Kelly 'Sunbuns'Brian Sullivan
Kelly's Second LifeBrian Sullivan Kelly 'Sunbuns' David Seefallus
Mec a poil(inactive for RSS only)
A Quiver of Errors and Guilded LoinsKelly 'Sunbuns' Brian Sullivan David Seefallusgarxon19
A Father's Pride and JoyKelly 'Sunbuns' David Seefallus Brian Sullivan
InterRacyBrian Sullivan Kelly 'Sunbuns' sullybboi David Seefallus
____> 男 Otoko -The Japanese MaleKawika Makahakanoa sullybboi Kelly 'Sunbuns'
Travels with SunbunsBrian Sullivan Kelly 'Sunbuns'
The Spirit is Willing but the Flash is Weak, day and night.BFlySully David Seefallus Kelly 'Sunbuns'
Uber Horny: guys who want it badsullybboi garxon19 Kelly 'Sunbuns' Brian Sullivan


Tumblr  blogs (Oct 2014 - most of new since my former Tumblr blogs were deleted in Sept 2014.
guysn2cmnm It was deleted on Oct 6, 2012

Other blogs:

LiveJournal    See my blogs on LiveJournal at:
    http://sunbunz.livejournal.com/
    http://nudewithclothed.livejournal.com/
Over-Blog  (just started using this one):
    http://seefallus.over-blog.com
    http://guysn2cmnm.over-blog.com
Nibblebit.com
     http://sunbunz.nibblebit.com
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Probably, this response is more than Andrew (tallwhiteboy) expected to get. But with each every email I write, I consider that effort to be worth it IF it leads me to a better understanding and also to be able to write something that I can share with others (for free). Therefore, I made my response one of the posts in my personal blog that you are reading now.
Cheers, and thanks for the stimulating question, Andrew. I hope it will be useful advice in response, and that you will have many more readers for your own blog.

Kelly



Posted By hardtwoholed to Uber Horny: guys who want it bad at 12/19/2014 10:13:00 PM

Friday, September 23, 2016

Hostel stays: Fond memories of male nudity among strangers



For those who are interested, here are our members' memories of youth hostelling, and the joys of naked boys on road or rail trips.

Note from Kelly (sunbuns), blog editor: The stories below are from email group exchanges on the YMNA, Young Men's Nudist Association, a Google group.  The longest ones are written by David or atitlan, moderator of the group. I also have written many times about this topic, and find the situations one encounters in hostels to be wonderful ways to get to know people and find out things about oneself in the process.  See my photo just below]


If you wanted to travel when I was a teenager, it was either unaffordable - and lonely - hotel rooms or it was youth hostels, which were cheap and always had people to talk to. I stayed in numerous youth hostels in Britain, Germany, Austria, Italy and Israel. No two were alike.
They might be a 16-bedded farmhouse in the middle of nowhere or a huge city building with dorms each holding 100. A hot shower was a luxury only some offered; at other hostels it might be a cold-water morning wash from a basin. There were chores to be done. At one mountain hostel I had to go out and gather wood so in the evening we could huddle around a welcome fire with only gas lanterns to take us to bed.

A real feeling of camaraderie could build up. Strangers became fast friends, particularly if they met up again at another hostel later on. When I was 17, I hitch-hiked up to Scotland and found myself constantly bumping into a handsome dark-haired French lad of the same age. His name was Thierry and he wanted to be a brain surgeon. One evening I persuaded him and a girl to go for a walk in the forest outside our Scottish castle hostel. I still remember the intense look he gave me and the feeling of his hand on my shoulder but we were not alone, nothing happened and we never met again.








I am not sure why you were told all Americans slept nude because that was not my experience of Americans in youth hostels. I slept nude and so did some of the others in the male dorms but most seemed to wear what we in Britain call y-fronts. These did not hide much when it was time to get up,
with morning erections producing tent poles. Lying on a bottom bunk, I would find it difficult not to laugh when the top bunk occupant clambered down, his tented underwear only inches from my face. I always preferred the top bunk to sleep naked.......

The oddest thing about the dorms was the casual nudity. Because we as strangers got to know each other so quickly, we would carry on conversations in the dorm. I remember in Italy a young cyclist with a pleasant but not handsome face getting undressed while talking to me, only for this ugly duckling to turn into a swan. He was hiding a spectacular swimmer's muscled physique. He then stood there naked and full-frontal until he had finished what he wanted to tell me.
My most eye-popping experience of youth hostel nudity came when I was backpacking around Israel.

I was staying next to the Dead Sea, alone in a long line of
inter-connected communal showers after a sticky day on a bus through the West Bank. Suddenly the shower room was invaded by a dozen American 16 year-olds looking very fit in their white towels. These were quickly discarded and it became clear they
were far more dirty than me, covered in mud from a caving expedition. They were full of excited chatter about the events of the day. I was unsure where to look. With difficulty, I averted my gaze and got back to washing myself. 

Until that is I was aware of three of them crowding around and almost touching me. Please could I tell them how to turn the showers on, they had never seen a faucet like these. So I had to give them a demonstration. A testing time!

The attached pictures try to convey some of this. A few of the hostels could be old and basic, like the first photo, others might be more comfortable like the second. The third image illustrates the cameraderie. The fourth an impression of what it was like huddled together in those open showers.
atitlan

On Wed, 13 Apr 2011 22:03 +0200, "Fred Stein" <fredstein3@hotmail.com> wrote:

Bring back happy memories. I was very young in the early 70´s - before the interrail - lifting around Europe - living in Youth Hostels! In a way when the world still was innocent for a young man. Think of some stories but probably a bit off-topic - f.i. how I was taught that all Americans sleep nude (at the Youth Hostel in Hannover) .... I would love to hear stories from your days meeting guys a bit more simple as today...
Sorry for my English - not my native language ....



  Same experience here, Atitlan. I traveled much of Europe via International Youth Hostel Association. In more cases than not, the hostels were reasonably modern with large dorm areas -- a dozen or more sleeping areas in a room. Even those which were older, and re-structured from former usages (large homes, etc.) had shared accommodation with "total strangers". Nudity -- and by that, I mean, non-sexual and comfortable nudity -- was common: changing clothing, sleeping, showering and traveling to-from the showers. Conversations like, "I have 60 Swedish kroner. They're worth just a little more than a French franc. I'm leaving early in the morning on the ferry and won't be able to get to a bank. Do you have enough francs to exchange for me?" were conducted nude, and the exchange made.
Admittedly, this was in the 1960's and 70's. It was definitely a "different time" from today's common "shame in nudity".
Alic


---------- Another Forwarded response to the above messages ----------

Well, thank you Fred! For those who are interested, here is my memory of youth hostelling.
If you wanted to travel when I was a teenager, it was either unaffordable - and lonely - hotel rooms or it was youth hostels, which were cheap and always had people to talk to. I stayed in numerous youth hostels in Britain, Germany, Austria, Italy and Israel. No two were alike. They might be a 16-bedded farmhouse in the middle of nowhere or a huge city building with dorms each holding 100. A hot shower was a luxury only some offered; at other hostels it might be a cold-water morning wash from a basin. There were chores to be done. At one mountain hostel I had to go out and gather wood so in the evening we could huddle around a welcome fire with only gas lanterns to take us to bed.

A real feeling of camaraderie could build up. Strangers became fast friends, particularly if they met up again at another hostel later on. When I was 17, I hitch-hiked up to Scotland and found myself constantly bumping into a handsome dark-haired French lad of the same age. His name was Thierry and he wanted to be a brain surgeon. One evening I persuaded him and a girl to go for a walk in the forest outside our Scottish castle hostel. I still remember the intense look he gave me and the feeling of his hand on my shoulder but we were not alone, nothing happened and we never met again.
I am not sure why you were told all Americans slept nude because that was not my experience of Americans in youth hostels. I slept nude and so did some of the others in the male dorms but most seemed to wear what we in Britain call y-fronts. These did not hide much when it was time to get up, with morning erections producing tent poles.

 Lying on a bottom bunk, I would find it difficult not to laugh when the top bunk occupant clambered down, his tented underwear only inches from my face. I always preferred the top bunk to sleep naked.......
The oddest thing about the dorms was the casual nudity. Because we as strangers got to know each other so quickly, we would carry on conversations in the dorm. I remember in Italy a young cyclist with a pleasant but not handsome face getting undressed while talking to me, only for this ugly duckling to turn into a swan. He was hiding a spectacular swimmer's muscled physique. He then stood there naked and full-frontal until he had finished what he wanted to tell me.

My most eye-popping experience of youth hostel nudity came when I was backpacking around Israel. I was staying next to the Dead Sea, alone in a long line of
inter-connected communal showers after a sticky day on a bus through the West Bank.

Suddenly the shower room was invaded by a dozen American 16 year-olds looking very fit in their white towels. These were quickly discarded and it became clear they were far more dirty than me, covered in mud from a caving expedition. They were full of excited chatter about the events of the day. I was unsure where to look. With difficulty, I averted my gaze and got back to washing myself. Until that is I was aware of three of them crowding around and almost touching me. Please could I tell them how to turn the showers on, they had never seen a faucet like these. So I had to give them a demonstration. A testing time!

The attached pictures try to convey some of this. A few of the hostels could be old and basic, like the first photo, others might be more comfortable like the second. The third image illustrates the camaraderie. The fourth an impression of what it was like huddled together in those open showers.

Stay bare.
atitlan

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Wednesday, September 21, 2016

Natural and spontaneous nudity in public parks and recreation areas






The kind of flashing that appeals to me is the sort of 'semi' innocent flashing where guys get naked when changing clothes. It is not as if they really are intending to shock somebody by masturbating and blowing your load right in front of people .. it's a kind of laid-back form of (almost) unintentional public nudity. Don't get me wrong, I'd probably love being exhibitionistic more overtly in certain circumstances -- like in a gay movie theatre or sex club. I know I've enjoyed being watched in gay saunas -- but that is a kind of private sex life that I am not talking about here. 


At least for now, the only kind of public flashing I can do is the accidental exposure - "you weren't supposed to set that" type. I have found that some parks (depends on the country and the city) are great for this type of spontaneous 'naturist' flashing and other are not. 

I have already written about how guys in Japan who are with their teams -- often change in public parks and just outside public ball fields -- you can sometimes get quite a show when they strip down to nothing or try to jump out of their athletic gear and into their street clothes. 

There are other places where I have experienced something a bit different. It seems that there is 'room' in society for a lot of male public nudity in Europe. 

  

Donau Insel (Donau Island), Vienna

Link to info about nudism on Donau Insel (Donau Island inside Vienna on the Danube River):

http://www.nudismus.cz/reports.html

Donau Island in Vienna and its excessive public parks along the Danube River were excellent for this kind of 'innocent' flashing. Along there somewhere may well be a section that is totally nude, but I couldn't find it. It is easy to take the train (subway) to one of at least two stations along this public park-way or arrive at one and walk (30 min) to return via the other - which is the way I explore the area. 

I found that you were more likely to just happen across a nude man or women or see people pull of their clothes to get into the water. A few couples were going at it .. like a woman giving a guy a handjob under his shorts, but it is mainly a family like atmosphere - -but with some nude people mixed in - typically as singles. the long thin island is where I walked and then sunbathed nude, although there were a lot of people on the opposite banks -- the river is quite wide so it was not easy to see what state of undress people were on the far banks. 



What I liked is that you could change clothes (and flashing cyclist) or pick a spot up on the embankments and just get naked, or go for a nude swim and it was not a big deal -- at least not for the casual observers who might glance your way. 

Obviously, Englischer Garten in Munich would be another place. However,  it was raining hard when I was there in August a couple of years ago, so I wasn't able to get naked.  


Innocent Flashing Spots:

Can anyone recommend other places/parks/ public recreation areas where this can easily happen (in North America or elsewhere too)? 

Much of the US tends to be so puritanical about nudity that people are likely to call the police on somebody who just is peeing, let alone actually sunbathing nude in a public park.


However, there are a few places and also some special events where public nudity is tolerated - even downright encouraged.  One of those is the WNBR  (World Naked Bike Ride) held in the northern climes around the second Saturday (or Sunday) in June.  

See the WWW site: http://www.worldnakedbikeride.org/